THE GAME.

In my pursuit to better understand this whole concept of "game", I've been asking a lot questions..questions such as knowing how to initiate, becoming better at it or even determining if a person is playing the "game"...in the midst of all these rush of knowledge and observation, i can't help but feel indifferent to the "game"...like my friend was saying, there is always games that people play, regardless whether they know it or not..yes that is very much true on other people but i really think I'm a little too old to be playing games, especially when it involves people's feelings getting hurt or heart's broken...but the more i come to understand this whole concept of the "game" the more i come to realize that its a very self-centered and self-serving thing to do..everything it evokes is fully based on the fact that our pride is on the line...so we play games, we don't call so that maybe they'll miss us enough for them to call back...we try to be really close to certain people ie. ex-boyfriends/girlfriends, so that maybe they'll want us back or miss us more...we pretend that we are bored in our conversations or that we ignore their messages but in the back of our minds, we want her/him just as much as they want us...I think I've come to a conclusion why people play these games...its because we just don't want to get hurt in the end..plain and simple...so we become guarded, an impenetrable fortress and that will not let anyone in unless we are 100% sure that he/she will stick around...i don't see the "game" as a form of weakness but more of a human nature...we are afraid to get hurt..have our hearts handed to us in a million different pieces...or as my friend would say "be another trophy"...its human nature to be afraid...i know because i was once this..still am i think but I'm learning...but as the good book says, there is no fear in Love but perfect love casts out fear...so lets not be afraid to show someone we care about them..not just in words but in dedication to spend time and the choices we make in that time spent...one of the things I've been learning these past few months discovering and building the relationship is that, do not be the reason why a relationship can't work..be a better person, make better choices..organize your thoughts and most importantly see that person the way God sees him/her...treasure the relationship whether or not it plays on your favor...it takes a lot maturity and love and hardcore honesty but in the end no matter what the outcome is, the fact is that God's love for you is perfect, regardless of our shortcomings or faults and the more I come to understand this sort of love, the more i can become the person who is not afraid to love someone...i become more like Him...its an adventure folks, enjoy every minute of it.